CONTROL Vs LETTING GO

There is nothing for me to control ... Why should i?. Isn't it going against the order of nature?. After so many years, i've realised that most things are beyond my control and i have accepted this FACT.

i'm learning to; each time i find myself confronted with a problem or a dilemma,faced with making difficult choices and find myself in a situation that i cannot avoid, ignore or run away from.

The tendency to be in control is strong to ensure the perfect result from an endeavour but the unexpected and unforseen can and most likely might happen.It is not from lack of preparation or lack of caution but more so because we're working and dealing with people who we're probably not always in sync with.And when we're working alone, we're up against nature and so many other eventualities that may not go along with what we've planned for. Such is the order of nature.

Is it easy to accept "not being in control"?. No,it isn't but acceptance and being flexible to adapt to the unexpected and uncertainties of LIFE helps to mitigate disastrous results and manage stress.

The ease with which we learn to cope with not being in control ensures peace of mind. We cannot predict outcomes in life ... Ever. Letting go, knowing we've done our BEST is the alternative much desired and within our reach with practice and consistency.

Letting go does not mean we're uncaring or immune to expected outcomes and results.
We're simply "letting go" to accept the consequences of our careful planning and preparation. We're very much aware and alert to face all THAT we have and need to face.

Isn't it better to cultivate and make conscious efforts to let go rather than be rigid and try to control everything and everyone?.

i hope my efforts of "letting go" continues while 'being in control' diminishes over time. After all,i'm a work in progress. 🙂












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